I am learning that without setting boundaries in life it only causes more hardship and stress on oneself. We all come across challenges in life, some stem from work, others relationships and many are rooted in family drama. The thing to remember is, the only person you can change is yourself. The stronger and wiser you are, the more nourished your soul will become. A nourished soul opens one up to a world of unexpected discovery, grace, joy and love. The hardest thing about letting go of ‘drama’ and the harsh things people say is .. ‘what they say truly doesn’t matter’ .. that’s right. Repeat: ‘The nasty, cruel things people say or do truly do not matter.’ A mantra I like to repeat to myself a dear friend shared: “Just allow yourself to be, let other see the joy and light of who you are.”
“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”
What does bring brave mean? Does it mean always being strong, having much bravado, a hardened outer shell? Or does it mean allowing yourself to be vulnerable, open to new experiences and challenges, delving into the unknown in the end overcoming the thing you fear? Is it jumping into something juicy and creative? Climbing an “emotional” mountain and making it to the top in stride? Stepping out of your “comfort” zone, meeting new friends? Or is it standing up for yourself, learning to be clear in thought and saying what you feel, versus what other’s want you to hear? You can be courageous without having to “roar” like a lion. You can be strong, because inside you already are, and always have been. Remember being brave, means being gentle with yourself until you are ready to fully blossom .. a butterfly does not become a butterfly right away, first they’re a caterpillar, then spun into a chrysalis .. and when they’re ready..and the time is right .. they bloom.
Lastly, “When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.” Paulo Coehlo
There is no true time limit on grief or the grieving process. “Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming.” The important thing to remember is you know yourself best, no one else. It’s okay to be angry, cry, laugh, be joyful. Please don’t feel guilty about feeling happiness or joy. Getting to this point in the process is a mile stone. When life becomes truly overwhelming: take deep breaths and take a moment to remember those you love. What would they want for you? Be open to signs .. these mean your loved ones are coming through and looking out for you. I feel my mother around me all the time. I just yesterday saw a baby dragonfly ~ a sign my mom’s spirit was close by. How do you remember your loved ones? Do they come visit in spirit? In your dreams? .. if they haven’t yet, there’s still time for them to. If they haven’t yet, it may mean you’re closing off this healing energy, due to fear, sadness .. sending love out today to those who are in need. ❤
Meet, Nola, Nala and Misty .. otherwise known as the “3 Musketeers” .. they are the best of friends and swim, race, run, roll around in the grass and play hard. Oh, how wonderful it would be to be a “dog” .. just think you spend your basking in the sun, playing, swimming and when all worn out: nap. I’ve been pet sitting for the past week and find it quite a joy. Dogs are the most loyal and loving of creatures. They will do just about anything to “please their human.” This may include: stealing your slippers, walking off with your book, occasionally sneaking sips from your coffee cup .. in the end though ~ I wouldn’t trade not having a dog for anything in the world. Where else can you find unconditional love, always having someone to listen to you .. and cuddle up next to .. dogs don’t judge — they only love. Where else in the world can you find unconditional love and get infinite puppy hugs? ❤
I was unsure about what to write about here, but after seeing a very dear friend of mine grieving for the loss of a dear friend, a woman who’s more or less become an “adoptive Mom” to her I felt I needed to share my thoughts.
For oh so many, the beginning of May brings feelings of true “spring” and celebrating Mother’s Day. I lost my Mom about 3 years ago to Leukemia. The first Mother’s Day without her I felt nothing but frustration at hearing all the many “radio and TV” commercials for how to celebrate the Mom in your life. The second, since her death was not as traumatic. I got a lovely potted floral arrangement to set atop her grave stone, all her favorite flowers. Spring was her favorite time of year. This year, I will not be in Maine to honor my Mom and the holiday feels removed and distant.
For those of us who’ve lost their Mother/Grandmother/Aunt it’s important to remember we can still celebrate them, honor and love them on this day. They will remain with us in spirit always. So, how do you celebrate? This is up to you .. what were some of your Mother’s favorite things? Flowers, the ocean, the mountains .. perhaps go for a hike and have a picnic .. if she loved Angel food cake like my mother did, bake a cake, light a candle atop, and make a wish .. strawberries? Why not take a few of your close friends berry picking? If you have photos, make a photo collage or album. By honoring those who have passed, we stay present. It’s also perfectly a-okay to cry and boycott the holiday.
Grief creeps back in on these kind of days. It’s okay to be angry, but in the end, take a moment to honor those who have passed? What would they say? Would they want you to be happy? Of course they do. Carrying on with life is imperative after loss .. but a mantra I repeat to myself when overwhelmed .. “there is no pre-set time limit to grief” .. in the end – finding joy, wonder and magic in life is essential.
Sending love, light and healing energy out to those who need a little extra .. ❤
Tomorrow is the 2014 Kentucky Derby .. A time to gather with friends, dress up, wear a festive colorful hat and sip on “Mint Juleps” .. what you may not know is Rosie Napravnik (age 26) from New Jersey is going to try and make history — by being the first ever woman to win. Here is more about her wonderful story:
I say, go Rosie, go .. I hope you have a wonderful race tomorrow, and even if you do not win, I cheer you on for your spirit & courage. Let this be a said, that if you have a dream, follow it, regardless of gender. Never say no, and always believe and have faith in yourself .. as Rosie the Riveter so eloquently said: “You can do it!/Si Se Puede” .. ❤
There’s nothing quite like Seashore State Park in Virginia Beach .. it’s a beautiful hidden gem stashed away from the hustle and bustle of the city. There are wonderful walking trails for humans and your four legged friends alike. This is Nola and I stopping off for a nice little “sit down” along the trail. I look forward to going back and highly recommend it to anyone, young/old alike. It’s the perfect place to take a break from it all .. and best thing: it’s pet friendly .. Nola gives his “woof” of approval .. Happy Friday all .. have a lovely weekend!
Here is a bit of history about Beltane/May Day .. “May Day is a holiday that slips many people by, yet for some it is full of meaning. The history of May Day and the May Pole tradition is thousands of years old, and is rooted in the Celtic cultures of the Northern Hemisphere. May Day was, and still is, known as Beltane; a festival for the celebration of the life, fertility and summer.” http://guardianlv.com/2014/04/may-day-history-beltane-and-the-may-pole/
I hope everyone get’s the opportunity to step out and embrace spring and the beauty of the day. Do something from your heart and pay it forward. ❤
I could get lost in the world of literature .. it provides an experience where-in you can literally escape from the “real” world ..